After living with someone for years, it is not easy to start all over.. alone. When that person is suddenly gone from your environment, it can be a bit of a shock when the sense of loss kicks in. Every single thing can remind you of your loneliness such as an empty bed, a missing toothbrush or even the occasional snoring you hear from the other side of the bed. Everybody who goes through a divorce will surely struggle with the transition, even the person who initiated it. But hey, look at the bright side: For everything you lose, You gain something else. So when you lose a life partner, what do you gain?
LOSS: Having a warm body sleeping next to you.
GAIN: Absence of snoring and ability to sleep in any position as you wish.
LOSS: Someone to hold you tight at night, to make u feel safe
GAIN: Go get a comfy bolster. It's softer and more flexible than the real thing.
LOSS: The empty side of the closet, drawers and wardrobes.
GAIN: Are you kidding me? It's time to go shopping and get new stuffs to fill em up!
LOSS: The scent of a man.
GAIN: It doesn't always smell so good. It's a better idea to get some aromatic candles and enjoy the relaxing moment.
LOSS: Not having someone to share meals with.
GAIN: Good news is you don't always have to prepare dinner. You can have cereal for dinner or even makan in front of the tv, nobody's complaining!
LOSS: You miss someone to watch tv with.
GAIN: You get the sole posession of the remote.
LOSS: Having someone to go out with on Friday/Saturday nights.
GAIN: You can have more time to go out with your girlfriends.
LOSS: Having companionship.
GAIN: Expand your horizon, date, go out and meet people. This can lead to new adventures.
LOSS: Not having anyone to do the handy work around the house.
GAIN: Take it as a challenge and learn how to do them. By doing this, you gain self empowerment. If not, hire a cute handyman who can do a good job and look good while doing it.
LOSS: Sex (Not that it was fantastic anyway!~)
GAIN: There are some amazing technological devices meant to serve this purpose for women! Buzzzzzzzzz.....
Of course there will be moments of vulnerability that will intensify the feelings of loneliness especially during wedding anniversaries, birthdays, holidays and so on. If we take time to allow ourselves to grieve and feel the pain, we can move on to create a better life. Positive changes and optimistic mindset will help enrich our lives and make us a happier person.
Afterall, there must be a reason many women choose to stay single and are happy staying single...
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